Family Safety Center
The Exchange Club
Memphis Area Women's Council
- Make a plan and think it through.
- Contact DHS (or one of the resources listed above) and tell them what is happening. They will help you find a shelter.
- Don't tell anyone about your plan, and don't go to friends or family. The abuser will go to them first to try to find out where you are. The less they know, the better.
- Don't leave "signs" around. For example, don't pack a suitcase and hide it in a closet. He will find it.
- Find a safe way to leave. Don't try to leave while the abuser is home or asleep. He will hear you.
- Arrange to be dropped off in a neutral location to meet up with the shelter people. That way, the one who dropped you off won't be able to tell the abuser where you are.
- If you have a job, don't go back there. That will be the first place he looks.
- At a shelter, you can get the care and information you need (ex: food stamps, therapists).
- If you have a church family, they can help and guide you.
- Don't worry about what anybody else says. Remember why you are doing this. It is for your kids and for yourself.
- Once you make up your mind, don't look back.